About Karen
Human Being, Being Human
It is normal for people to put themselves and others into neat little ‘personality’ boxes. This is especially true when ‘sharing space’ with someone for a short period of time or for a specific (temporary) purpose – like attending title insurance school or reading a title insurance book, for instance! 😊
Most students, readers, and clients ‘know me’ in the confined space of my ‘Day Job’ – writing, teaching, and consulting on ‘All-Things-Title’ with an emphasis on regulatory compliance. However, like every other person on the planet, I actually have a LIFE beyond my Day Job. While I still devote 30+ hours per week to my Day Job, I devote equal or greater effort fulfilling my PURPOSE in Life, which is to Help Humanity Heal.
To that end, I offer the following condensed version of who I really AM, at the core of my Being. I have learned, as an Old Soul Empath (Energy-Healer) that when we openly share our personal stories (vulnerabilities) with others, it creates a Safe Space for them to share theirs with us… and this is where Deep Healing begins.
To the outside world, I appeared to have a normal childhood. Hidden behind that facade were varying shades and degrees of systemic abuse (verbal, emotional, sexual), punctuated by rape at age twelve and, again, at age fifteen (the latter resulting in pregnancy). Without going into further detail, during this time I had no one to turn to for guidance or support. Over time I became numb to the unwanted advances upon my body; however it took decades to heal the psychological scars left by the ‘millions of tiny cuts’ caused by verbal and emotional abuse.
Fortunately, I was born with an exceptionally high IQ, an insatiable appetite for learning, at-a-glance speed reading ability, long-term photographic memory, and the determination to break the cycle of familial dysfunction. I left home at sixteen to enter college, where I double-majored in Education and Psychology. My two-prong goal was to eventually TEACH high school English and, in the meantime, use Psychology to HEAL myself of the debilitating ‘dis-ease’ of rejection, abandonment, and neglect. I never did teach high school English, as I quickly became disillusioned with the U.S. public school system and its dysfunctional boxed-in ‘teach-toward-the-test’ mentality.
Unfortunately, I carried the ‘scent of victimhood’ making me easy prey for non-familial ‘predators’ – where the varied types of abuses occurring during my childhood persisted throughout early adulthood. The difference is that I was better prepared to defend myself, thanks to nearly twenty years (post-college) of self-learning in subject matter that began with Psychology and expanded to include Quantum Physics, Brainwave States, Vibrational Frequencies, Non-Duality, Eastern Religion, Philosophy, and Meditation; with an ‘eclectic-sprinkling’ of study involving Indigenous Tribes (Shamanism and Totem Animals), Freemasonry, Past Life Regression, Numerology, Astrology, the Chakra System, Crystals, and Manifestation Practices. I remain a Lifelong Learner to this day, although I donated most of my 2000-book (non-fiction) personal library to local public libraries and various metaphysical groups. Thanks, Kindle, for literally ‘lightening the load’ of decades of indepth research and knowledge!
Following college, with no desire to teach within the U.S. public school system and with little money, I landed a job as tri-state manager of a large national mortgage company, specializing in forbearance agreements and workout arrangements to help homeowners in default avoid foreclosure. At the time, I was the first management executive under the age of twenty and the first woman to hold that position. However, still lingering was the ‘scent of victimhood’ making me easy prey for an unscrupulous senior executive who threatened to fire me if I did not ‘consent’ to his unrelenting sexual advances. I refused and, true to his word, he fabricated cause which led to my first job loss. Fortunately, his secretary provided evidence of his wrongdoing, while other female employees acknowledged similar unwanted advances. I filed a formal complaint with the company, under threat of lawsuit, demanding his immediate firing. I refused their offer of reinstatement with a substantial increase in pay. Eventually, they agreed to terminate his employment.
Over a short number of years, I moved into land development (where I testified against my employer for multiple land fraud schemes) then into the title (settlement) industry, where I reported and/or testified against three successive employers for embezzlement (employers 1 and 2) and deed fraud (employer 3). My reward for ‘doing the right thing simply because it was the right thing to do’ – what I refer to as the ‘Spirit of the Law’ in my Ethics Courses – was job loss, as all four businesses were summarily shuttered. That’s when I wrote the first of thirty-one industry textbooks, How to Spot and Stop Fraud, Forgery, and Embezzlement, which launched my first National Lecture Series. That led to opening an educational design firm specializing in regulatory compliance programs for title (settlement) industry agents, an adjunct consulting service, and small publishing company.
I share my short employment history for the fact that it took nearly seven years of witnessing systemic ‘bad behavior’ to realize that Universal Energy was throwing everything (shy of actual ‘bricks’) to align me with my CHOSEN LIFEPATH, which was (is) to TEACH and HEAL.
Old Soul Empath (Intuitive Energy Coach)
As I (Human Being, ‘Being Human’) continued to pursue lifelong learning to aid the HEALING process, my main interest (hobby) was Quantum Physics. At that time, I identified more with Eastern than Western Philosophies. My two main ‘Go-To-Guys’ were Albert Einstein and Paramhansa Yogananda, followed closely by ‘new age’ authors which included Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, Gregg Braden, Bruce Lipton, Christiane Northrum M.D., and Joan Borysenko. My longterm studies focused on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, Brain Wave Frequencies, and Vibrational (Energy) Healing. More than anything, I have always known that the former fields of study would establish the (scientific) foundation of my Energy Healing work.
From Victim to Survivor
I am an Old Soul Empath who contracted with Pure Source Energy (‘Energy’ for short) to incarnate during this lifetime for the purpose of Helping Humanity Heal. In order to DO that, I needed some “street cred” so that abuse and rape victims – among others in need of Healing – would recognize me as one of their own. Part of my agreement in coming here (to Earth) at this time was that I would bear witness to my own victimization in furtherance of developing a personal pathway to HEALING from the Trauma. That is essentially what I did during the first 40 years of my life, during which time I moved from victim to survivor. That’s when things got really interesting!
As a metaphysical backstory, I have actively communicated with Energy since I was a young child. In speaking of Energy, I use three interchangeable terms:
- OneSelf (depicting Nondual Reality)
- Pure Source Energy (Still and Silent Pulsating Heartbeat of All-That-Is)
- SOLE-to-SOUL Consciousness (Sole being ONE; Soul being MANY)
Some refer to Energy as God, Higher Power, Spirit, Creator, Supreme Being, The Divine, That, I Am, or other name. It does not matter what name, label or term we (individually) assign Energy – all that matters is that (at least for the moment) we ‘agree-to-agree’ that Energy denotes that which Unites us in the Benevolent Spirit of Healing Humanity.
From Survivor to Transcendence
Continuing from above – the Human Being, ‘Being Human’ part of my Journey – my major in Psychology coupled with other extended studies, empowered me to create a personal pathway to HEALING. I was shown that staying too long in Survivor mode can cause us to fall back into Victimhood. Earlier I referred to the ‘scent of victimhood’ following me into early adulthood, which attracted more ‘predators’ who inflicted additional harm upon my person. What I am referring to here, is that when we stay stuck in Survivor mode, we (ourselves) become ‘self-predators’ and inflict further harm upon ourselves.
This is when Energy directed me to the third step in the HEALING process – to Transcend (move beyond) Survivor mode. This does not mean forgetting the Trauma but, rather, forgiving those who inflicted the Trauma upon us. Forgiving does not mean letting them back into our lives. Forgiveness is not even about them. It is about (and for) us.
In 1999 I wrote my first self-help book, Walking in Integrity: 22 LifeSteps for Living Life On Purpose and With Purpose. One of the twenty-two LifeSteps was to Practice Forgiveness. In that chapter, I used the word Forgiveness as a partial acronym: ‘F.O.R. Give’ which stood for Focus On Release / GIVE it to God. This means ENERGETICALLY releasing the (physical, emotional, spiritual) grip of the Trauma. You still remember it, but it no longer has a hold on you. You retain lessons learned, which serve to protect you in the future and which can be shared with others in need of release and Healing.
For years, in speaking with various abuse victims and survivors groups, some would comment – when I related the Trauma suffered as a child and young adult – that I did not seem ‘affected’ by it; going so far as to ask if I had ‘shut off’ part of me that remained unhealed. Initially, that was the case – as it is for many who experience Trauma. As a defense mechanism, your brain – the storage house for all your memories – will ‘wall off’ certain memories, to protect itself and, in turn, protect you. The greater the Trauma, the greater the likelihood of dissociation (detachment).
As I mentioned, after systemic abuse (verbal, emotional, sexual) which permeated my childhood, I continued to experience periodic episodes of new Trauma through early adulthood. What put me on the personal path of HEALING was that each new Trauma event triggered a memory of same/similar Trauma in my past. It took twenty-five years following childhood to fully ‘peel the onion’ – removing one (wounded) layer at a time – and reach the Original Wound (first Trauma).
As a real-life example, a new Trauma occurred in my early thirties. During the Healing process, I experienced repeated flashbacks to myself, as a two-year-old, being held down on an examination table by my mother – her body literally laying on top of mine – while the doctor performed a pelvic examination. I also recalled my mother telling me when I first had a (fleeting) memory of the incident, that I had been walking along the top of a fence on my grandmother’s farm and fell onto a fencepost. I had no reason to question my mother at the time and since the memory was fleeting, I moved on with my life. But this time, not only did I recall the pelvic exam in vivid detail, I also remembered in equally vivid detail being penetrated by a family member in the barn of my grandmother’s farm when I was only two years old. When I told my mother of my full recollection of events, she admitted that she had lied to hopefully prevent me from remembering the trauma inflicted upon me. However, it took full recollection of the (literal) Original Wound for me to completely heal.
The purpose of sharing this is to remind us that we have ALL experienced Trauma at some point in our lives – even if (only) during the collective ‘Time-Out Trauma’ experienced during the COVID Era, exacerbated by the chaotic events leading up to and through the 2024 election cycle. While there may not have been physical Trauma, there was significant emotional and spiritual Trauma that for many (most) remains as Unhealed Energy.
To HEAL – individually and collectively – we must move out of F.E.A.R. [False Evidence Appearing Real] and step into F.A.I.T.H. [Fear Absent In The Heart]. We must avoid D.E.N.I.A.L. [Don’t Even Notice I Am Lying] and embrace the UNITY in HUMANITY. Unity is the backbone of Humanity. Without UNITY Humanity ceases to exist:
H U M A N I T Y
Unity does not mean we all must agree on all things all the time. Unity is integrating (‘weaving together’) the depth and breadth of our differences and diversity to create an unshakeable foundation (‘Fabric of Society’) upon which we can each (all) pursue our respective passions and fulfill our individual and collective Purpose.